May 04

Sick Days

Here’s the thing — I generally don’t get really sick. Sure, I get a cold or flu once or twice per year — and for a while, I had a persistent stomach thing that seems to have cleared itself up. But for the most part, I am the kind of person who always have a ridiculous amount of sick leave built up because I don’t take that many sick days — and when I am down with a cold, I take a day or two off, and then pump myself with DayQuil and head back to work.

IMG_0557-1About a week ago, though, I came down with bronchitis AND an ear infection (yes, an ear infection. I had no ideas adults also got them. Not many to apparently as the WebMD article on them consistently refers to “your child”). I have never had bronchitis (the sickest I have previously been was when I had strep throat 6 years ago) and had always assumed that is was just like having a bad cold. Well, I was wrong — there is no comparison (other than the coughing and stuffiness) — as I said above, I’ve always been able to work through colds. Not this, however — today is Saturday and I have been wiped out for the last nine days — I did go in to work on one of those days, which was a mistake as I accomplished nothing.

Why am I telling you all of this, you may wonder? (Especially if we’re Facebook friends as you’ve been subjected to my whining about this for the last week or so). Well, as you know if you hang around here often, I like to make lists of what I’ve learned from something (see my previous post). Without further ado, then, here is what I’ve learned from having bronchitis:

The Protestant Work Ethic is alive and well — and as messed up as always. I queried folks on Facebook about whether they would go teach with a diagnosis of bronchitis and ear infection. While most said no, a few said yes, pump yourself up with meds and go ahead. Oddly, it’s the folks who are involved in people-contact professions who were most likely to say “go in.” I did end up canceling one class and cutting another short, but damn, if I didn’t feel guilty about it.

It is possible for me to not work and the world not come to an end. I know, I know, I’m 46 years old so should know this already. And yet, I still went into a panic at the thought of being sick, especially at the end of the semester. At first I thought I would be able to work a bit and keep up, but was soon disabused of that notion and so have done very little other than respond to a few emails and grade a few papers over the last 9 days. And you know what? No one has died. I am behind, but it will get done eventually. Or it won’t get done. And it’s all okay. I have a great staff who are keeping things going at the Women’s Center — and my students are doing just fine. I am really not that important —  and it’s good to be reminded of that now and then.

I am capable of being quiet for a long time. Anyone who know me, knows that I am a big ol’ extrovert who talks quite a bit. The lack of energy, though, has caused me to more or less shut down — to the point where my husband said to me last night that he’ll be glad “when I’m back” — as if I’m away on a trip (which in a way, I suppose I am).

Twitter is the best sick time reading. 140 characters was all I could handle for a while :-)

My husband and friends are awesome. I have been a pain in rear throughout this — while rarely getting super sick is in most respects a good thing, one of the problems with it is that I really suck at being sick. I’m impatient and miserable and happy to share that misery with everyone. So to all of you who have been patient with me over the last week or so, thank you. I promise to try to learn how to be better at this in the future (although I am hoping not to need it).

Finally, but most importantly, I am damn lucky to have a job with paid sick leave. So far I have taken six days off from work — and I have not had to worry about how I would pay my bills or whether I would have a job to go back to. This puts me in a privileged minority given how many folks (part-time workers, nannies, restaurant workers, etc., etc.) do not have access to paid leave. It is an absolute scandal that the U.S. does not have decent sick leave laws to protect workers and the public. I used to wait tables and if I’d been this sick, my options would have been go to work and infect the public — or take off and lose my pay (and potentially my job). And this is true for most food workers. Think about that for a second. Do you really want a waitress with bronchitis serving your food? It’s crazy.

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Apr 22

Things I Learned in Vancouver

Last week, my friend Shaun and I took our Alt Academix show on the road to the University of British Columbia in Vancouver where we gave two workshops. Here, for no reason other than I feel like sharing, is a list of some of the things I learned.

Vancouver is super pretty. I mean ridiculously pretty. I mean unfair-to-those-of-us-who-don’t-live-there pretty. Water AND mountains? This KC girl is envious.

View of the bay and mountains from the UBC campus

View of the bay and mountains from the UBC campus

The Chinese restaurants are authentic. Yes, that is a heart in my duck soup. No, I was not expecting it.

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Waiter, there’s a heart in my soup!

The UBC Museum of Anthropology is awesome.

IMG_0473This stall in the Granville Island Public Market is reason enough for me to pack my bags and move to Vancouver

That is an amazing display of pâté

That is an amazing display of pâté

Doing two 3-hour workshops in one day is hell on one’s legs and feet. But we had great students, faculty, and staff to work with, so the time flew.

Vancouverites (??) are a polite lot, who thank the bus driver when exiting the bus, regardless of the door they are using. It is a bit disconcerting the first time someone yells “thank you!” from the back of the bus as I had no idea to whom they were speaking.

Finally, did I mention that Vancouver is pretty? Because it is.

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I also learned some serious things about higher education and graduate students — but this post is not about that, so will share those later.

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Apr 22

Lean In with #femlead

lean inIf you’ve been conscious and tuned in to the media at all over the last 6 weeks or so, you have probably heard that Sheryl Sandberg, COO at Facebook, wrote a book that people are talking about (just a bit). You may also have heard that there is a fair amount of disagreement in feminist circles about Sandberg’s book and whether it’s helpful or harmful to women.

We at #femlead decided these were questions worth pursuing — so the next two #femlead chats (4/30 and 5/14) were be dedicated to a discussion of Lean In as well as the discussion around it. The chats will be facilitated by me and the fabulous Liana Silva. We hope you can join us and below are some links in case you want to do some pre-reading.

Joan C. Williams and Rachel W. Dempsey, “The Rise of Executive Feminism” in HBR

Anne Marie Slaughter’s review in the NYT

Lean In and One Percent Feminism” in Truthout

Feminism’s Tipping Point: Who Wins from Leaning In?” in Dissent

Jill Filipovic, “Sheryl Sandberg is More of a Feminist Crusader..” in The Guardian

Catherine Rottenberg “Hijacking Feminism” on AlJazeera

Jessica Bennett, “I Leaned In: Why Sheryl Sandberg’s ‘Circles’ Actually Help,” in New York Magazine

On Lean-ing In” at Racialicious

Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean in” Message Not Enough for Women, Especially Professional Latinas” at Huffington Post

The Feminist Mystique” in The Economist

Joan Walsh, “Trashing Sheryl Sandberg” at Slate

Questioning Sheryl Sandberg: We’re Not “Trashing,” We’re Exploring” at The Broad Side

Tressie McMillan Cottom “Lean In Litmus Test: Is This For Women Who Can Cry At Work?”

Elsa Walsh, “Why Women Should Embrace a ‘Good Enough’ Life” in the Washington Post

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Mar 25

Testing 1, 2

In the next few months, I have quite a bit of travel coming up (5 trips in a little over 3 months, including FINALLY some international travel. I haven’t left the country since I went to India in 2007/2008). One of the things I would like to do is not have to constantly drag my laptop around with me, so I’ve been trying out using my iPad with a keyboard and apps.

So far, so good. The keyboard (a Logitech Ultrathin) is great and I’ve found Quickoffice and Google Drive helpful for dealing with documents. BUT. I have yet to find a blogging app I like, despite trying several. Thus, the title of this post, as it is a test post from Poster, the most recent app I’m trying. We shall see.

Bloggers with iPads, what app(s) do you use? Any advice most appreciated!

(ETA: As noted, this was first written with Poster, which did okay, except for handling hyperlinks, but perhaps I need to learn how to do that better).

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Mar 24

How Responsive Are You?

In may ways, email is great for corresponding with students — it’s quick and efficient and allows one to answer questions without students’ having to wait for office hours. Recently, however, I’ve had one of those “OMG, I hate the way email encourages students to think I should always be hyper responsive” experiences. After not receiving a quick enough reply (even though my out of office bounce was on and I had announced that my office hours for the week would be canceled as I would be out of the office), a student managed to track down my number and texted me in a panic, wanting to know if I had received his emails. On a Sunday.

As you might imagine, I was a tad irritated at this. But then I wondered, am I partly responsible? Do I respond too fast? Outside of working hours? Should I stop replying after 5 p.m. and on weekends (even if it’s often the only time I can reply because thats when I’m not in meetings)? As a friend put it, one wants to get that response taken care of, but also doesn’t want students to think we are sitting at our desks at 3:30 a.m,, just waiting to reply to them.

I’m not sure what the answer is, so would love to hear what others do. Do you have a policy? Do you reply quickly? On weekends? Evenings? How do you balance the need to be responsive to students with your need for downtime?

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Feb 22

Snow Days!

What’s better than a snow day? TWO snow days!! Yes, that’s right, we got two snow days here in Kansas City. Even better than that, they’re on Thursday/Friday, thus giving us a four-day weekend. Folks, it does NOT get any better than this (especially considering that they fell on non-teaching days, thus requiring no reworking of the syllabus).

What I love, love, love about snow days is the disruption of the normal routine, the stillness of them. Inside the quiet house, watching the snow fall outside the window (or pour even — we got 3 inches of snow in an hour yesterday!), it feels as if the world has retreated — and given how full my days usually are, that is a welcome respite. Want to blow off doing homework, waste some time on Twitter, invited friends over for midweek eating and bourbon-drinking? Go ahead — there’s no work tomorrow! Also, it’s pretty:

Beginning of snowstorm

 

Beginning of snowstorm

 

Thundersnow!

Multiple viewsI consider myself damn lucky to be able to curl up in a warm house that never lost power with enough to eat and a job that pays me to stay home when driving is dangerous. I wish all of you the same and happy snow days!

 

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Feb 18

Y’all, Language Learning is Hard

So, file this under “things I should have known and probably did, but forgot” — learning a language is hard work. I chez noushave been teaching German for many years now (more than I care to count, really) and so, on some level, I knew this. After all, I learned German (and French and Latin) at some point and I’ve watched students struggle, so I should know this, right?

Wrong. I had forgotten it. Until this semester. I am sitting in on a first-semester French class and well, it’s hard work. Harder work than I remembered. Here is an incomplete list of what’s hard about learning a language:

  • Time/vocabulary – as someone who generally “gets” languages, the structure/grammar part isn’t all that difficult (I say “all that” because I have more to add on this below). BUT, finding the time to memorize vocabulary is damn near impossible. My fellow auditor and I did not take the most recent chapter test, but got to see it today. Friends, I would have been in D territory because I simply would NOT have been able to produce the vocabulary required to do well on this exam. Ashamed to admit it, but it’s true. I need to figure out a way to find the time to a) make flash cards and b) memorize the words on them. Easier said than done, let me tell you.
  • The “this is weird” syndrome – I cannot tell you how many times I have said to students “German is not weird, it’s just different.” And now here I am , freaked out — FREAKED out, I tell you — at the way French constructs its questions. The main difference being that for my students, English is normally the standard, whereas I am comparing French to German — and wondering where the hell the verb is and why it’s allowed to come after the subject in a question. I mean, that’s just wrong. Everyone knows that :-)
  • The other students – our prof (who is an amazing teacher) has a rule that we are supposed to sit with someone new every class. There are a whole bunch of pedagogically sound reasons for this, all of which I forget the moment I find myself paired up with someone who is not prepared for class and who has not done her/his homework. Naturally, I end up teaching said student and helping her/him catch up. Which. Drives. Me. Crazy. I complained about this to my husband tonight, and he said, “but, of course, that’s what you want as a teacher — to have the strong students help the weaker ones.” “Well, yes,” I said, “but it’s annoying as the strong student.” I am not entirely sure what to do with this information — my husband is, of course, correct, that always pairing students of similar ability does not work, but I do now empathize with the better students in a way that I didn’t before.
  • Time – I’m just going to state this again. Learning a language takes up a fair amount of time. I’m able to slide by for now because I’ve had a lot of French in the past and it’s coming back. But I know that I am going to be in a world of hurt in a few weeks.

I’m only four weeks into this experiment  and am loving it i (there is something really fabulous about leaving the office for a bit at lunchtime to go learn something), but I am also learning a lot — much of it things I’d forgotten as it’s been a long time since I was on this side of the classroom. I’m hopeful that by the end of the semester I will not only have (re-)learned some French, but that I will have learned enough about myself that I’m a better teacher in the future.

 

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Feb 17

I’m Probably Not Going to Get It All Done

We just completed the fourth week of the semester here at my university — this is the time when, as they say, the s*** starts to hit the fan. The first student flake-outs, the big assignments, first exams (Thursday was apparently a big exam day on our campus as there was a TON more students hanging around the hallways and the majority of them looked super stressed out).

For me, this has been one of those semesters — I was scheduled to be out of the office in early February for a grant training, so had carefully planned my syllabi to accomodate the travel, scheduled meetings around my absence, etc., etc. And then my grandmother passed away the last weekend of January, which meant I had to fly home for the funeral during the second week of the semester. During the trip, I managed to pick up a cold. So my life has looked like this so far this semester:

  • Week 1: start classes and Women’s Center programming
  • Week 2: Work/teach Monday, fly to PA Tuesday, funeral Wednesday, fly back to KC Thursday, work Friday. Come down with cold on Saturday.
  • Week 3: Drag sick self to airport, fly to Birmingham, spent week at grant training sick as a dog. Fly back Thursday, sick day Friday.
  • Week 4: Try desperately to catch up on everything while dealing with a lingering cold.

It’s been a ton of fun, let me tell you. And it’s got me thinking about a couple of blog posts I read last summer — one by Kathleen Fitzpatrick “You Will Never Get It All Done,” in which she writes:

I find myself in the entirely privileged circumstance in which the opportunities are expanding astronomically. This situation requires a different kind of self-talk, because once I say yes, once I add the opportunity — the commissioned article, the invited lecture, the advisory board — to my to-do list, I’ve committed myself to getting it done. And one of the best ways that I can be kind to future me is by ensuring that those commitments are to the things that best support the work I want to do, in the deepest sense.

And the post she’s responding to by Jason Jones, in which he points out:

Since you can’t get it all done, one can easily fall into the trap of thinking that you can’t do anything. (“If I can’t get caught up on X, what’s the point?” “Since I’m behind on Really Important Thing X, I should also let minor responsibilites 1, 2, and 3 slip.” And so forth.) But no one ever wrote a book, or taught a class, or even revised a department’s curriculum in a single step. Focusing your productivity system on next actions can help you fight through procrastination-driving despair.

I have been thinking about both of these things — how often/should I say yes and how to “fight through procrastination-driving despair” — as I try to dig myself out of hole this semester has produced. And I, too, have finally been forced to admit that I probably will not be able to get it all done (or at least not on time). And that’s okay. I’ll finish those things that must be done because I’ve made commitments to other folks and accept that some things might just have to slide (or be done imperfectly). Moving forward, I need to keep in mind that saying yes and taking on more is not always the answer, that “no” is okay sometimes as well. And sometimes it’s even okay not to do something. Sometimes.

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Feb 11

Deleting Feedburner

For those of you who are subscribed to this blog via Feedburner, please note that I will be deleting that service by the end of February (given Google’s decision to stop supporting it). Please update your RSS readers to point to http://brendabethman.com/feed/

Happy February!

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Jan 16

So Far, I Like 2013

A belated welcome to 2013! 2012 ended like this:

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So you can see that it was not a bad year. But, while 2013 is 16 days old, it’s already kicking 2012′s butt. Here’s why:

  • MLA 2013: I’ve written before about how much better the MLA conference is than in years previous, but the conference held earlier this month was even better. It feels as if the profession is finally addressing the question of employment off the tenure track in a much more visible and tangible way. And that is a good thing.
  • Work: I may have mentioned once or twice that I really love my job a lot. And it’s true. But this semester, I’ve  got some cool new projects to work on, including team teaching a new course on gender and modernity in Weimar Germany, and developing a study abroad program to Dakar, Senegal. Those two projects alone should keep me happy and busy — and there are even more good things to do — it’s never dull at the Women’s Center.
  • And this happened:

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Our first column went live this week and is available here.

So, yes, the first 16 days of 2013 have been pretty darn awesome — here’s hoping the rest of the year can live up to it. How’s your new year going so far?

 

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